tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post7287538527129173778..comments2024-01-12T06:12:35.838-05:00Comments on StorytellERdoc: No Love For A FatherStorytellERdochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371229500424449124noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-457149858618590232010-02-06T22:49:40.539-05:002010-02-06T22:49:40.539-05:00I love how lack of planning on their part means it...I love how lack of planning on their part means it's an emergency for everyone else. I bet they didn't even buy the plane ticket in advance either....mommy-medichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09840535408488261923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-35439031445252474222010-02-06T12:27:50.547-05:002010-02-06T12:27:50.547-05:00This speaks volumes about the US health care syste...This speaks volumes about the US health care system and how society is becoming disillusioned by it as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-59669415282586948492010-02-06T05:55:40.196-05:002010-02-06T05:55:40.196-05:00I used to work as an OT. I had one patient in the...I used to work as an OT. I had one patient in the hospital that was ready for discharge. Daughter felt that he was unable to live alone any longer, even despite the fact that he had a housekeeper that came daily to help with housework and meals. And despite the fact that as an OT I could have arranged for someone to come in daily to help with showering. <br /><br />So when our hospital discharged him, she booked him into a private hospital as a respite patient because she didn't want to care for him at home. <br /><br />The reason why she felt that he could no longer live in his own house alone - anxiety. Yep, he could dress himself, care for himself, and even make his own coffee, but he would be too much trouble for her if she had him live with her while he was on the wait list for assisted living.<br /><br />Should my folks get to the point that they need assistance, but not nursing home level care then I intend on moving to their locale (which is Canada, and I currently live in Australia), to be able to assist them. They have helped me with so much in my life that I feel it is only fair that I help them out too.Happy Vegemitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01261225080169823055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-43023782387328411262010-02-05T22:19:40.040-05:002010-02-05T22:19:40.040-05:00I can't imagine what the father would have don...I can't imagine what the father would have done to warrant such humiliating treatment from his family. My parents and I drive each other mental most of the time but when push comes to shove we all know that we'd be the fiercest fighters for each other.Mahahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04860979377398925052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-75197105793370838792010-02-05T21:51:58.189-05:002010-02-05T21:51:58.189-05:00Don't be so quick to believe that people were ...Don't be so quick to believe that people were told this or that by their family doc/internist/peds. I am one of those docs and roll my eyes at some of the crap that my patients tell the ED doc when they are in - "my doctor said my baby can absolutely NOT have soy formula" - "my doctor said I needed to come in and get my OxyContin here" - um, yeah, SURE I said that.<br /><br />That being said, I know there are others out there who abuse the ED - not all of us do, though.<br /><br />Anyone who is dumb enough and so entitled as to bring someone to the ED to be admitted into an assisted living facility isn't probably the best source of information. So sad - I worry the dad would be abused or mistreated by his children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-75956676368291238432010-02-05T17:55:27.569-05:002010-02-05T17:55:27.569-05:00The flip side ...
A friend's father-in-law wa...The flip side ...<br /><br />A friend's father-in-law was a convicted pedophile. He had molested his two daughters and several of their friends as young children. Her husband's mother had divorced him when one of the young friends came forward and he was convicted. It took years of therapy for her husband & his sisters to recover from what their father put them through.<br /><br />My friend had two daughters about the age the girls had been when they were molested, when the father/grandfather reached a point at which he could no longer live on his own. He begged his son to allow him to stay with them "for a little while", until he could get an assisted living or nursing home placement.<br /><br />After much discussion, they refused. The chance that he would harm their daughters during that time was to great to risk his presence. Instead, when he showed up, they took him in for an evaluation at their ED (their family doctor wouldn't take him as a patient), and he spent 2 days in an inpatient bed, then moved to a nursing home. Had he not been admitted, she was ready to tell him to go live on the street.<br /><br />After watching her anguish over the situation, I can't judge any more. I don't know the back story to anyone's decision.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11787451361223768758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-10654458054142398422010-02-05T05:54:39.473-05:002010-02-05T05:54:39.473-05:00typical case on 23.dectypical case on 23.declimesohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10922527544228534910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-1052445582662809232010-02-05T05:36:09.837-05:002010-02-05T05:36:09.837-05:00Ahhhh, human nature and the plight of family dynam...Ahhhh, human nature and the plight of family dynamics. Never ceases to amaze!Just had the flip side of this sad tale (in our ER) with a Mom that had been caring for her profoundly, severely, developmentally delayed,totally immobile, dependent, non verbal son for 23 years. Could see the weariness in her eyes, the fatigue in her body and the sadness in her with the overwhelming responsibilities to his care. If there was anyone that needed respite care it was her... but the love was so overwhelming that she never once complained.Would NEVER think to ask for such a thing! Both Mom and Dad were devoted and doting to "child" that had never been capable of "giving back." Now, that's LOVE! The folks from Dr Jim's story have obviously never known this kind of heartache or devotion to the human condition. Most likely never will...too shallow and too preoccupied with their own needs first.911RNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697968739358691531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-9925845421204319922010-02-05T02:09:52.493-05:002010-02-05T02:09:52.493-05:00This is a sad story and I was thinking that it mak...This is a sad story and I was thinking that it makes no sense. Why move him across the country to then drive him to the ER from the airport? If you cannot stand your father enough to have him stay at your house, not even for a few nights, why make him move in the first place? And preferring to have him being admitted over hosting him at your home is bewildering. Is a hospital the new hotel? (Hospital beds suck!)Calhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17204635978443190089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-63085997805441590212010-02-05T00:50:52.407-05:002010-02-05T00:50:52.407-05:00Very sad.Very sad.SeaSprayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07906503090688697222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-44387791938939479812010-02-04T23:29:10.587-05:002010-02-04T23:29:10.587-05:00Infuriating. Galling. Stunning. Sad.
Sadly, the &...Infuriating. Galling. Stunning. Sad.<br /><br />Sadly, the "pop drop" as it's called in my hospital is fairly common here.<br /><br />Shame on these children. I hope they get NOTHING in the will.<br /><br />It's this horrific social side of medicine that hurts my heart and soul the most. <br /><br />GOOD FOR YOU, Doc. I only wish you could've beat them soundly about the head to knock some sense and compassion into them.t.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15078067225523297368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-57637183649793447472010-02-04T12:54:24.826-05:002010-02-04T12:54:24.826-05:00I admire your restraint- it must be very difficult...I admire your restraint- it must be very difficult to remain outwardly non-judgmental at times. They could well be the children from hell, but he could have also been a monstrous person. I've known enough people who were so badly abused by their parents that they wouldn't give them a piece of bread if they were starving to death, so without knowing the entire story remaining as neutral as possible is probably the best way to play it. <br /><br />That said, if he was that bad, why on earth would they bring him across the country? And I'm not at all surprised that a family doctor told them to take them to an ER for a placement- regardless of whether it's right or not, it's often the quickest way to get a solution.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02809636995447795326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-625342748271195522010-02-04T02:37:36.477-05:002010-02-04T02:37:36.477-05:00Hi! This story is pathetic but I'm happy the w...Hi! This story is pathetic but I'm happy the way you sorted them out. <br /><br />Mind you, I wouldn't be surprised if this man's ungrateful children complained; if only I was there to deal with this, as surely they'd be shown the front door!<br /><br />Take Care,<br />PeterPeterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12097919387041286154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-49708799959170988232010-02-04T00:47:05.560-05:002010-02-04T00:47:05.560-05:00That is as sad as can be. It makes me want to brin...That is as sad as can be. It makes me want to bring him to my home.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13540096932312929506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-54471569320631652872010-02-03T23:54:25.082-05:002010-02-03T23:54:25.082-05:00Those...things aren't what I'd call "...Those...things aren't what I'd call "people." The phrase "human debris" comes to mind.Dr. Mongo Lloydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351344829632811877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-42696288278866394442010-02-03T22:12:51.498-05:002010-02-03T22:12:51.498-05:00As long as there are people like these, we will ne...As long as there are people like these, we will need prisons.Rogue Medichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07598646309630074992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-20276845905074108092010-02-03T21:32:43.999-05:002010-02-03T21:32:43.999-05:00oh and for the record... I dont know where your ER...oh and for the record... I dont know where your ER is, but here in western Colorado, our local doctors send<br />patients to the ER for a plethora of ridiculous things.<br /><br />Just had one in today who was sent on by their family doc (who just saw them in the office 3 days ago) for the complaint of "feeling weird" for 7 months. Did he tell his PCP about his weirdness 3 days ago? yes he did. Did his PCP do anything about it? No she didnt.....sighTonjiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00355425625416597121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-24583911726546622632010-02-03T21:30:31.877-05:002010-02-03T21:30:31.877-05:00I am sad, but not surprised. I remember the days, ...I am sad, but not surprised. I remember the days, before DRG's when families would dump their elderly family members off in the ER on holidays and during vacation time. What a shame that these ungrateful people would humiliate their father like this. <br /><br />Sometimes I really dont like the human race. I would rather work with dogs.Tonjiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00355425625416597121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-28084296435626066962010-02-03T21:12:56.912-05:002010-02-03T21:12:56.912-05:00I'd be more inclined to think positively of th...I'd be more inclined to think positively of these people if they hadn't taken him to the emergency room in the middle of the night to get him placed. Something about that just screams "entitlement complex with no regard for others." And even if the guy WAS the biggest asshole in the world...you don't do that to the freaking ER staff, and you certainly don't pitch a fit over having to wait hours to be seen.coulrophobic agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13529243280844103232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-81217434455833340862010-02-03T19:36:03.689-05:002010-02-03T19:36:03.689-05:00My first husband was a sociopath who abused our so...My first husband was a sociopath who abused our son and me physically and mentally. I no longer waste my time detesting him, but my son is still angry at his father and has not spoken to him for decades. There is no way he would even want his dad to live in the same state, let alone in his house. My son has been in therapy for years trying to overcome his abusive childhood...<br /><br />My ex can be quite charming if he wants to be and I'm sure people of short acquaintance think he's great, but they do not know him as we do. Even his brothers and sisters do not trust him or like him. You can't judge a book by its cover.Classof65https://www.blogger.com/profile/00575168312203811542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-57535498535508674812010-02-03T17:48:17.303-05:002010-02-03T17:48:17.303-05:00In our SNF, we have many residents whose children ...In our SNF, we have many residents whose children live locally, but never visit. We, their caregivers, become their family. I often wonder why their children never visit. What was so horrible that they abandon their parent forever?Lisa Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951250862147784757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-78372665868844736962010-02-03T17:15:49.435-05:002010-02-03T17:15:49.435-05:00WOW. This would make a great novel. I wonder how a...WOW. This would make a great novel. I wonder how all of those children came to act like this. Must be quite a history.<br /><br />My hubby and I have parents in their 80's in various states of physical conditions and we are blessed to still have them with us.<br /><br />Blessings, JJ/NancyNature Nut /JJ Lochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895220529481743313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-16892112680123026182010-02-03T16:39:14.324-05:002010-02-03T16:39:14.324-05:00Wow. Just, wow. My dad just died a few weeks ago...Wow. Just, wow. My dad just died a few weeks ago at the FAR too young age of 62, and I would fucking give anything to have him back and living here again. He wasn't a perfect parent, but he was still my dad. I would trade places with these people in a second.<br /><br />...sadly, I suspect they might switch places with me if they could, too.<br /><br />I mean, shit. He's your DAD. You're not going to have another one.coulrophobic agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13529243280844103232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-50593116863689717952010-02-03T14:47:01.668-05:002010-02-03T14:47:01.668-05:00And yet, it's so common...
The worst part is ...And yet, it's so common...<br /><br />The worst part is that as medical professionals, we take an oath to be non-judgmental. You did a fabulous job.The Hopeful Elephanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00004038685351656184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7558528804236989500.post-52130992059541660582010-02-03T14:04:24.415-05:002010-02-03T14:04:24.415-05:00That made me so sad :(That made me so sad :(J-Quell'nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01878522077562588401noreply@blogger.com